It seems a funny question but, really…. why?
Well… why not? I will explain the details later but, really… why not?
Wearing skirts gives us the upper hand, especially nowadays when so many terrible things are happening, and so many souls are being lost. Our Lady said at Fatima, “So many souls go to hell because there is no one to pray for them, no one to make sacrifices for them.”
To be more precise, Our Lady gravely said also, “Sacrifice yourselves for sinners and say often, especially when you make some sacrifice, ‘O my Jesus, this is for love of You, for the conversion of sinners, and in reparation for the offenses committed against the Immaculate Heart of Mary. ‘ “
Making a sacrifice, no matter how small can have enormous outcomes when offered up to Mary. Small sacrifices do not even have to be huge to do much good, for example: (not having butter on your toast that morning, not complaining about the heat that day, not saying that one curt remark, or smiling at someone you dislike…)
Our Lady takes those sacrifices and offers them to Our Lord who uses them to help convert sinners, keep souls out of hell, and in the end – also sends you back many graces you need.
So, why do I wear skirts all the time?
1. I want to make the sacrifice for souls; heeding the call of Our Lady to pray for sinners. Its something I can do, even pathetic little me can’t screw this up.
2. I want to dress more feminine; I want to try to dress and act more ladylike and more feminine. Not only to make sacrifices but also to help men. It is said that women being more ladylike causes men to act more manly. (In the case of perverts, well, the sacrifice can be made up for their souls… if anything.)
3. I have learned much about how much the state of dress (whether worn by and male or female) affects how one looks at a person. For example; we dress nice and “professional” if attending a job interview, because we want to be viewed as serious about work; that we can be trustworthy. Although as Christians we are called to love one another no matter what; dressing clean, and looking presentable and modest never hurt anyone. Aside from it being called for in the Catechism (2533 Purity of heart requires the modesty which is patience, decency, and discretion. Modesty protects the intimate center of the person.), it leads a good example for others.
4. I figure, that if it says in the bible; “Everyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart” (Mt 5:28) then it must mean SOMETHING. Even though, as mentioned before, as Catholics we are called to love no matter what; so much so that we have a Pure Interior Gaze. But the point also is that, the sinners for which we need to pray for (lustful men and women, perverts, adulterous people) are not able to look away if we dress scantily. Even if it would be possible for other Catholics to look at us with a Pure Gaze; others do not. Dressing scantily, (for example; showing certain private areas of the body) is a call to the human instinct (as strange as it sounds), it calls to our concupiscence, our lustful desires. Being human, we are built with that attraction; but it is something we must conquer, so as not to commit any sin of impurity. (CCC says to avoid sins of impurity and to be pure in vision, word, thought, and speech. -2520-) So, my point is; as to avoid being a “stumbling block” for others, to help others not use me to commit any sins of impurity, I want to dress modestly. Of course, nowadays, even if a woman were to cover from head to toe, a man could lust after her if he really wanted to; but the point is – it would be out of no fault of our own, for we not be dressing to “stimulate” so to speak.
You may be asking, “How then, do we know when it stops being scanty and starts being modest? Look at the Muslims and the Amish. Must we dress like that? Different people seem to have different ideas on what is modest or not” — Well, see #5…
5. I want to dress modestly! So I did much research and met three women who devoted many. many years into this topic of Catholic modesty. What we all came up with was this:
Pope Pius II deplored the fashions of women and even stated that immodestly dressed women were to be DEBARRED from communion! Wow! Sounds pretty harsh doesn’t it? Well; to help those understand what was to be understood as “modest” in the eyes of the Catholic Church, so the person would be completely aware that what they were wearing was in no way sinful, the Marylike Modesty standards were created. In the 1980‘s it, again, for the third or fourth time in received an Ecclesiastical Approval. These standards are simply:
Nothing see through, sheer, or skin-tight (arms are fine, it’s the rest of body we don’t want to draw so much attention too.)
Shoulders covered. (Quarter length sleeves are permitted until society turns to Our Lady as a model for Purity.)
Nothing lower cut than two fingers at the breadth of the throat.
These (standards) sounded pretty wild to me at first, but I found that its not actually as crazy as it originally sounded (after all, why not make the sacrifice?)
Our Lady said at Fatima in 1917:
“Fly from riches and luxury; love poverty and silence; have charity, even for bad
“More souls go to Hell because of sins of the flesh than for any other reason. “
Unfortunately we are human beings, of fallen nature, and we must work our way to heaven. Because of Original Sin; we are tempted very much by the sins of the flesh – I call your attention back to what Our Lady said at Fatima about sins of the flesh…
It would be so much easier if dressing “modestly” was not such a “big deal” but, then again… if it would not be a problem, then where would be the merit and sacrifice in that? Our Lady calls us to pray and make sacrifices for souls (including our own!) What better way than to dress modestly?
NOTE: Some people, men and women have different “problem areas’ when it comes to lust and immodesty. For some men, seeing thighs might be more of a temptation than for others, ect. The problem of being tempted is in us all; which is something we much work to correct. But if we truly want to be able to walk around knowing full well that we are NOT dressing to distract in a sinful way, nor being a “stumbling block” nor causing men by our OWN fault to lust after our bodies… this is a great thing to know!
There is quite a bit more information available on this topic, so I refer you to my three friends, my “skirt – sisters” who have studied this topic in light of the Catholic Church for many years, for the sole reason of keeping the “dignified” “ladylike” “fashionable” and also, “pure” look about how and what we wear.
Colleen Hammond: Colleen is the author of “Dressing with Dignity”, motivational speaker, award-winning writer, radio and TV talk show host, comedienne, and most importantly A MOTHER—all rolled into one!
She has devoted much of her time and effort into researching this book of hers; which was at first recommended that she write it by her good friend, Catholic speaker, Alice Von Hildebrand!
In this ground-breaking book, Colleen Hammond challenges today’s fashions and provides you the information you need to protect yourself and your loved ones from the onslaught of tasteless, immodest clothing. Colleen Hammond shares real-life examples of how women can accentuate the grace and beauty of their femininity, and she shows that modest definitely does not mean frumpy !! DRESSING WITH DIGNITY covers it all . . . The history and forces behind the changes in fashion. How to talk to teenagers about the privilege of femininity so they will want to dress with dignity. How to awaken chivalry in men and be treated with respect. How to regain and teach the lost charm of interior and exterior femininity! How to dress in an attractive, dignified, classy manner! Specific documents about manners of dress from the Magisterium, the Popes and the Saints. Comprehensive guidelines for choosing tasteful attire. Resources on where to find beautiful, modest clothing. And much, much more!
YOU CAN ORDER COLLEEN’S BOOK HERE — https://www.amazon.com/Dressing-Dignity-Colleen-Hammond/dp/0895558009
Rita Davidson: Rita is a Catholic wife, and mother of seven, with three autistic boys. Currently a writer, & published author, she is a former hairdresser, professional make up artist with a degree in Natural Health. She is now a Young Living Distributor. After overcoming a stroke, disabilities, and more, they recently lost everything in a devastating house fire that made them homeless for six months. She is determined to lead souls back to Christ by carrying their crosses with Joy!
After spending almost 18 years in skirts and still researching and praying about this topic (she’s been researching modesty since 1999!); she continues to pray and spread her work “To save souls, for the triumph of the Immaculate Heart of Mary” in her words.
You can check out her website here: http://www.littleflowersfamilypress.com/
Michelle Landry: Dedicating many years into the research of Catholic modesty after modeling, Mrs. Landry has made quite a bit of a turnout. Some of her work will be posted on this blog later on.
For some ideas on “modest dress” according to the Catholic Church’s modesty standard, check out my Pinterest page! Our course, modesty can be in all different styles and fashions; it doesn’t always have to be “vintage” or “Amish” or “Boho”. As long as you are properly covered, according to the standards, the style is basically up to you.
Great links for more information on the topic:
NOTE: Be careful when researching from Traditional Catholic websites; the information is usually correct but Sedevacantist groups such as the SSPX and Fr. Gruner are not with the Pope. (The FSSP are WITH the Pope.) Though the information they post may still be good. 🙂
Also interesting is St. Thomas Aquinas’ “Summa Theologica” Question 169 on Modesty. He mentions, “As regards the adornment of women, we must bear in mind the general statements made above (A) concerning outward apparel, and also something special, namely that a woman’s apparel may incite men to lust, according to Prov. 7:10, “Behold a woman meeteth him in harlot’s attire, prepared to deceive souls.”
Nevertheless a woman may use means to please her husband, lest through despising her he fall into adultery. Hence it is written (1 Cor. 7:34) that the woman “that is married thinketh on the things of the world, how she may please her husband.” Wherefore if a married woman adorn herself in order to please her husband she can do this without sin.”
More on this later. Until next time, God bless you!