Why Leah Darrow is Wrong.

“Who can say: My heart is clean, I am pure from sin?”
[Proverbs 20:9]

 Who is she? What does she do? What’s her main message? 

America Magazine (the infamous homosexual lifestyle promoter Fr. James Martin’s magazine) interviewed Leah in 2015 you can read it here. 


 I do believe that she is not wrong about this through her own fault; the Catholic Church is in a Crisis, and most people have no idea that more than half of their faith isn’t even being taught to them! She probably simply has no idea about the lengthy and detailed background in this topic. Unless you actually search for the right sources, and unless you’re heart is open to sacrifice and the Holy Spirit to work in you… you may not understand or believe in it.

 She is wrong about modesty. Yep. Most people disagree but, as mentioned before, no one can truly accept or agree with this unless they are open to making sacrifices.

 So, a few years back a young woman wrote to Catholic Answers about a Dress Code of sorts for Catholic women and Leah Darrow answered her.

Dress Code for Young Catholic Women
Question from Christie on 08-10-2011:
Is there an updated, official dress code from the Catholic Church for how women should dress? I am a 21 year old girl who has always dressed according to society, but now I am willing to completely revamp my wardrobe in order to pursue a life of purity and modesty. In trying my best not to offend God with my style of dress even more than I already have, I find myself getting both confused and frustrated because I simply can’t decide what is acceptable and what is off limits. Some things are obvious, for example, shirts that show cleavage and mini skirts. But I’ve also heard that tight pants are immodest. So does that mean jeans are unacceptable? Do I have to walk around everyday in a long skirt? I’ve heard that tight shirts are also immodest, even if they cover everything. Does that mean that I should wear an oversized T-shirt everyday? Being that it’s summer, I am especially stressed because there are so many opportunities to offend God with my wardrobe! Are there any shorts that are acceptable at all for women to wear? And bathing suits would be completely off limits, right? If the Catholic Church came out today and stated exactly what God expects of me in my dress, I would obey. But this confusion only leaves me frustrated, because I feel like I’m constantly sinning against God and I just don’t know how to stop. Where can I find a resource for how I should dress?
Answer by Catholic Answers on 08-10-2011:
Let me begin by saying that it is truly wonderful to read that you are willing to “completely revamp” your wardrobe according to a life of purity and modesty. Bravo to you!
The Catholic Church does not have an official dress code yet stresses that modesty (and common sense) be used regarding clothing. From the Catechism of the Catholic Church, we know that “purity requires modesty” and “guides how one looks at others and behaves towards them in conformity with the dignity of persons and their solidarity” (CCC, 2521). In conjunction, “Modesty is decency. It inspires one’s choice of clothing” (CCC, 2522).

Also, it is worth noting that in St. Peter’s Basillica in Rome, there is a dress code. You can check out a picture describing it here: http://saintpetersbasilica.org/Pics/SQR/DressCode- JG.jpg

When you want to get down the heart of modest clothing it is best to remember that modesty is truly not about a hemline. It is something that inspires one’s heart to amend their whole lives to a greater level of purity. It does, however, take on a certain look.

Personally speaking, as I go through the process of sorting out modest outfits from immodest ones, I generally keep to these rules, however this is not an exhaustive list:

-Jeans/Pants: If I cannot pull an inch of fabric from my thigh area, they are too tight. -Skinny Jeans/Leggings: These can be worn modestly as long as you have the right top that covers your backside and upper thigh. -Tops: A usual sign that a top is too tight is when there is a gathering or stretching of material between a woman’s chest. Tanks and shells under shirts can also help with modesty in button up shirts or shirts with a lower neckline. -Dresses: When trying on dresses, be sure to sit down in the dressing room to see how far the dress comes up on your leg. Some dresses look fine while you are standing but as you go to sit, you realize that you’re showing more leg than a CanCan dancer. -Bathing suits: A one piece or tankini are great alternatives to the bikini. Bikini’s emphasize nakedness while one pieces emphasize shape.

Furthermore, when looking at yourself in the mirror, if your eyes are directed to a certain part of your body, decipher if that part is being emphasized too much. In giving these personal recommendations, it should be noted that every woman has a different shape and will need to adjust her own modesty guidelines to make sure they fit her.

Lastly, I’d like to suggest checking out Pure Fashion’s website, where you can find a more detailed account of their modesty guidelines: http://affiliate.purefashion.com/modesty

In Christ through Mary, Leah Darrow Catholic Answers”


I am sure that no one would have a problem nowadays with her answer but, I will show you, step by step what is wrong.

I would just like to note that it’s not because I am “smarter” or a “better person” that I presume to “know more ” than Leah, actually it’s because I know quite a few women who dedicated their lives to learning about Catholic modesty and researching it, and I have done much research myself. So, it basically speaks for itself in the end.


Leah: “The Catholic Church does not have an official dress code yet stresses that modesty (and common sense) be used regarding clothing.”


Actually, the Catholic Church does have a dress code!


 Aside from the Guidelines, there is the Marylike Movement, which is NOT BINDING ON CATHOLICS UNLESS THEY JOIN THE GROUP! – The  “Marylike Standards of Dress“.

 Unfortunately too many have taken the whole “Marylike Modesty” idea wayyyy too far! Even as to “add” some extra rules! See The Marylike Standards for Modesty in Dress (as set down by the Vatican)” *shudder*. They promote covering up to their ankles and wrists to goodness sake! Promoting this as from the Vatican! Ugh. This sort of “modesty” scrupulousity reminds me of these photos..

  THIS IS NOT WHAT CATHOLIC MODESTY IS ABOUT! Can I stress this enough? lol

It’s not “two more inches and you are sinning!” but rather “here is a Standard that will make it easier for you to be able to build a wardrobe around, without having to worry about Modesty at all!” And even if some willfully dress immodestly, it is never our place to hate those people, or treat them badly! NEVER. EVER. EVER. WE are called to be examples, and to tell the truth when it is charitably necessary (if people don’t know what is modesty they cannot dress modestly), but we are NOT called to judge if a person is purposefully dressing sunfully to make men lust after them! Most people have no idea anymore! And then need our prayers, our charitable information when possible, and MOST OF ALL … our EXAMPLE.

There is still a sign outside the Vatican which tells the visitors how to dress. And if you are dressed more immodestly you will be thrown out or given paper clothing to wear! And as you can see, they still adhere to the original Modesty Standards, “shoulder and knees covered, nothing too low-cut… etc.”

From Saint-Peter’s Basilica site

Pope Pius XII condemned the idea that a sin such as wearing an immodest fashion is acceptable (i.e. not sinful) if it is customary at a given time and/or place. The principle of majority is no rule of conduct. (There are many evil practices that are widely accepted.) “There always exists an absolute norm to be preserved, no matter how broad and changeable the relative morals of styles may be … Style may never give a proximate occasion of sin, and clothing must be a shield against disordered sensuality.”

In the 1980’s the Marylike Standards for Modesty were again given Ecclesiastical Approval and the following changes were made. (Sleeves may be 1/4 length until society again turns to Mary as their guide for purity.) Thank God haha. See? The Church isn’t dumb, we are not expected to wear old fashioned clothing, covering EVERYTHING! Pope Pius XII actually calls us to follow the fashion, within the guidelines! He called it an act of charity! Check out these two short video clips where Colleen Hammond explains this!



We are called to look to these guidelines for the sole reason that we know without a doubt that our dress (and, remember we must be modest in our looks, thoughts, words and actions also!) will never be a source of scandal or sin to others.

“Because of this, the young particularly, whose minds are easily bent towards vice, are exposed to the extreme danger of losing their innocence, which is, by far, the most beautiful adornment of mind and body. Feminine adornment, if it can be called adornment, feminine clothing, if that can be called clothing which contains nothing to protect either the body or modesty, are at times of such a nature, that they seem to serve lewdness rather than modesty . . . Well did the ancient poet say of this matter, ‘Vice necessarily follows upon public nudity.’ ” – Pope Pius XII

Leah: “When you want to get down the heart of modest clothing it is best to remember that modesty is truly not about a hemline. It is something that inspires one’s heart to amend their whole lives to a greater level of purity. “

We are all human beings, born with Original Sin; we are of a sinful nature, we have concupiscence which we must battle until the day we die. That’s life. Nowadays the message seems to be, “Hey! We can all be just as pure and non-lustful as Adam and Eve before the fall! All you need is love! (insert Beatles song).”

I speak more about this in Saint Agnes & The Garden of Eden.

 This is unfortunately untrue… 

 Pope Pius XII said, “It is always difficult to indicate with universal norms the border-line between seemliness and shamelessness because the moral evaluation of attire depends on many factors. However, the so-called relativity of fashions with respect to times, places, persons, and education is not a valid reason to renounce a priori a moral judgment on this or that fashion which, for the time being, violates the limits of normal decency….

The most insidious of sophisms are usually repeated to justify immodesty and seem to be the same everywhere. One of these resurrects the ancient saying ‘ab assuetis non fit passio’ (“The passions are not aroused by things we are accustomed to”) in order to brand as old-fashioned the rebellion of honest people against fashions which are too bold. Must it perhaps be shown how out of place the ancient saying is in such questions?

When We spoke of the absolute limits to be defended in the relativism of style, We mentioned the unfounded character of another fallacious opinion according to which modesty is no longer appropriate in the contemporary era which has now become free of all useless and ruinous scruples.
It can certainly be conceded that there are different degrees of public morality according to the times, the nature, and the conditions of the civilization of individual peoples. But this does not invalidate the obligation to strive for the ideal of perfection and is not a sufficient reason to renounce the high degree of morality that has been achieved, and which manifests itself precisely in the great sensitivity with which consciences regard evil and its snares.” (“Moral Problems in Fashion Design” November 8, 1957.)


In moral matters man cannot make value judgments according to his personal whim: “In the depths of his conscience, man detects a law which he does not impose on himself, but which holds him to obedience. . . . For man has in his heart a law written by God. To obey it is the very dignity of man; according to it he will be judged.”[3]” (


” The virtue of chastity, however, is in no way confined solely to avoiding the faults already listed. It is aimed at attaining higher and more positive goals. It is a virtue which concerns the whole personality, as regards both interior and outward behavior.”


 Leah then gave ideas for finding “modest fashion”:

” Some dresses look fine while you are standing but as you go to sit, you realize that you’re showing more leg than a CanCan dancer. -Bathing suits: A one piece or tankini are great alternatives to the bikini.”


A great article titled “Modesty Paradoxes” led me to re-look at this way of thinking that is promoted by some Catholic Chastity speakers, and “Jessica Rey” a “modest” swimsuit designer…

 If it’s not modest to show “too much leg” in a dress, how is it modest to wear a tankini? 

I asked Leah what she meant on Twitter:


If you read the Fathers and Doctors of the Church, the BIBLE, Popes, Saints, regarding modest in dress, concerning especially temptation… you may also see what is wrong with her reply. (Again I refer you to another article I wrote on this)

It is a known fact that the way people dress largely affects how people treat you. Concerning Lust, Dignity, Respect, you name it. As Catholics we are called to love, respect and give dignity to every person regardless! But this ALSO means that we are to dress modestly as we are called by the Church.

Just the fact that some parts of women’s bodies affect men differently. Some men are more attracted to legs than shoulders… some have more trouble with temptation regarding mini skirts than halter tops. This is exactly why we must be prudent and careful when examining our clothing. This is why I thank God everyday that the Church has given us Modesty Guidelines! Or else we would, as a Catholic “Society” end up doing one of two things.

 #1. Dress however we want, regardless if it causes men to battle with temptations and lustful thoughts. Because HEY! It doesn’t bother SOME other guys!

(Where is the Christian love in that….?)

#2. shalimCover every single inch that can be attractive to a man on a woman! (Even though, just the mere sight of a woman could be a temptation to some men…. even just the thought of one!) 


Uhm. No… both of these are terrible suffice to say…

To wrap up. We need to actually read what the Church says about Modesty in Dress (and actions, and thoughts). We need to speak to those who have dedicated many, many years of research to Catholic Modesty, and who FOLLOW what they preach! (This is a big one!)

It would be really great to think that we can dress how we think is modest, but as mentioned before; something are more difficult than others when it comes to temptation. It is up to BOTH genders to dress modestly, be pure in HEART AND MIND, “flee thou youthful desires, and pursue justice, faith, charity, and peace, with them that call on the Lord out of a pure heart.” [2 Timothy 2:22]

 Learn to respect and love one another. But do it completely. 

Are we a “generation that are pure in their own eyes, and yet are not washed from their filthiness.” [Proverbs 30:12] ?


 There is a website that has all information on Catholic Modesty here – www.CatholicModesty.com 


Until next time! God bless & Keep it Trad!




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